Eat Love Do – Colleen Schell, Unlock Your Voice, Disrupt With Love & Share Your Story

Hello and welcome. This is the Eat Love Do Show, exclusive to Women's Radio Station. I am Ginny Newbury, and I've got quite a fantastic guest for you today. You're gonna absolutely love her. But before I bring her on, do you remember to hit up our socials? We're on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter @WomensRadioStn, and head over to our YouTube channel, hit that like and subscribe because it really does help us, and we love it when you support the show. Anyway, let's crack on to the good stuff. I've got the amazing Colleen Schell on, uh, on this week. She is the founder of FABEX. FABEX is the Fab and Extraordinary Stories of Life. She is phenomenal, an absolute powerhouse. I actually met Colleen 6 years ago in Bali when I was living in Ubud in Bali, and she just blew me away with what she was doing back then. And I think what she's doing now is even more incredible. I can't wait to bring her on. Um, so without further ado, Colleen, welcome to the show. Thank you so much, Janine. I'm so glad to be here. Thank you for joining us from all the way across the pond. It's a privilege to chat with you. The wonders of technology. Um, do you want to tell us a little bit about what you're doing now? Because I know you're helping women unlock their voice, um, and sharing their truth and having the courage to do that. Would you like to share with us what that is and what you're doing? Yeah, for sure. So FabX is a, a training company that's really aimed to unlocking people's voices so that they can share their truth in order to transform people and to add value to people's lives. And what's, what is phenomenal about is that everybody has a story and everybody has a story that's gonna impact others. But most people feel like they don't have a story or they're embarrassed or they, their story's gonna be boring. So a lot of people sit on this gold that they have that could really make an impact in the world and also an impact for themselves. Because when you share your story, you heal and other people heal around you. So one of the things I'm going to stand for is really unlocking people's voices, and especially women's voices. You know, women have such a profound view of life, the creators of life. You know, as the feminine energy is moving into more of the balance of the masculine, there's a chance for us to take a seat at the tables that we haven't been at before. And a lot of women I've noticed from my corporate days have not had the courage to really share their voice. So it's really important for me to activate these women's voices and to give them the support and the courage that they need in order to step up and share their truths and being willing to make the impact that's available here on the planet. I love this. I love this because, I mean, men seem to do it so much more easier than women, don't they? They just kind of naturally like do that and stand up and sort of say what they do and look for that affirmation. But women, I don't know, we're sort of raised to not do that. And if you do that, somehow there's something wrong and you're being too masculine or you're being too this or you're being too, you know, you should be quiet, look pretty and not be noticed. And it's like, I'm so glad that this is all being pushed to the side and women are empowering themselves, but not in that masculine way which people have traditionally done through corporate life and in business because they've been emanating men. Because that's what women thought they needed to do to be successful. But now they're finding a way to do it in that feminine way. So I absolutely love that this is what you're doing. If the women are listening and they're like, well, how do we do that? What, um, how would, what would you say? Like, what advice would you give? Like, how do you get started into tapping into that voice within you and finding that courage to share it? Yeah, so there's a couple of things. So you mentioned some of the reasons why we get stopped from sharing ourselves. And one of the biggest challenges is that We have a fear to be seen. And you know what's the craziest thing is? It's just what we all want. We so want to be seen, heard, and gotten. But we are fearful of that because of all the masks that we put on, all the conditioning from our culture, how we're supposed to be, how we're not supposed to be. So we have this desire to be seen, but we're so scared of it. So to be able to take baby steps into being seen more and more, and what that even looks like is leading the conversation. A lot of times when women get into meetings— so my background is in corporate development. I was suited and booted, corner office advertising agency, did business strategy. And for myself, I noticed I was, I would sit like I was at a big, you know, top 50 company in the world sitting in their, in their campus in the conference room. Flanked by my side is my executive team, and on the other side of the table is their executive team. And we're pitching for a new product, and I have a great idea, but I sit on it. And then I sit on it for too long, and the moment to share passes me by. And I think a lot of people feel that and they feel the regret of not actually sharing. So what it is for you to just take baby steps. Where can you just start sharing yourself a little bit more? Is it with your close friends where you're telling them a little bit more about what's happening behind the scenes? Is it like, okay, I'm going to lead a part of a meeting where I feel safe with my team. I'm going to lead an exercise so I can be able to— my nervous system can take on having the energy of people looking at me. And in places that are safe. And when I started doing that, all of a sudden, then by the next month, it didn't take long. By the next month, I was able to free my voice and being willing to be seen. And another thing is just finding out the belief systems that you have running in the background or the BS. And a lot of people have the I'm not worthy, I'm not valuable, I'm not good enough. And going to work on, okay, what does it look like to start finding evidence that those are not true. Where have you been good enough? Where have you added value? The brain loves evidence, and the brain gets exhausted. If you find enough evidence for the other opposite to be true, the brain will exhaust itself and say, okay, you're right, this is now true, that I am good enough, that I am valuable. And it might not even be I'm good enough or I am valuable. I had one where I had that I was stupid. I had a belief system that I was stupid, and that stopped me from sharing in corporate, in the corporate environment. And I realized that, and I thought, okay, well, I can't go to I'm smart because it's too far of a jump for my subconscious. So the next belief I made up was I might not be the sharpest tool in the shed, but I make a difference. And the I'm stupid, Colleen, acted a very specific way. The I might not be the sharpest tool in the shed, but I make a difference. Colleen acted in a whole other way. All of a sudden, I was sharing myself in new ways. I was getting into action. I was raising money for charity. I was getting in front of stages of thousands of people to do so. And it was just in the stand of this new belief. And these baby steps that I was taking towards this new belief started shifting how I saw myself. And now I get that I'm smart, like, oh, I'm actually smart and it doesn't matter. Like before, I'm stupid was so heavy and like, okay, yeah, I'm smart. Okay, who cares? Let's go and, you know, do the work. I love that. It's such a subtle thing, isn't it? But it's so powerful. And I love that you became like that new, like you embodied a new person just by changing the language about how you thought about yourself, just that new belief and how powerful that was. That's, that's a great one. Yeah. And that's easy. It seems when you, when you say it like that, you think, oh yeah, that seems really simple to apply, but maybe not, you know, someone may not have thought of that. But I think that's, I think that's really powerful. And I think anyone listening can actually take that on board and try that on for themselves as well. Like, what can you shift about yourself and just reframe it and say it in a way that actually moves you towards the space you want to be? I love that. Absolutely love that. Yeah. And the key is finding the evidence for your new belief to be true. Yeah, that's the key. So I went to my life and say, okay, where was I not the sharpest tool in the shed, but I made a difference? And it was just, there was so much evidence like, oh, well, that is true. That is clearly true. And now all of a sudden I was being that. It became part of who I was. And then I was taking action from that. Yeah. I love that. I love that. Ooh. So tell us, um, a bit about FabX and what you do, uh, within this. FabX is really a place for people to share their transformational stories. So I teach people the FabX Storytelling Formula, and it's a formula that just wins over any audience at any time. It taps into vulnerability, high-level emotions, authenticity, and really talking about finally telling the truth, you know, saying those things that need to be said that people are unwilling to say because of many different reasons. Shame, embarrassment, you know, all the belief systems. And when you finally tell the truth, not only does it unlock you, it unlocks the people listening, because everyone in the audience is like, thank God someone is willing to finally tell the truth, because they also have things that they're sitting on that they're shameful about, that they're embarrassed about, that shouldn't have happened. And so when that that energy in the room gets cultivated. It's just so gorgeous. Absolutely gorgeous. And it really is my stand that people get the contribution that they are just from the sharing of themselves. And what does it look like to be a contribution? A lot of times when people start a FabX training program, within 2 weeks, they finally tell me the truth, and they're like, yeah, well, this is what actually happened. And I'm like, you got to share that. And they're like, I could never told anybody this. And then within— by the end of the program, they're up on stage sharing that thing in front of 150 people and just alive and confident about it. And just like they're owning it. And they're like, it's okay that that happened. It has nothing to do with me and who I am now. But this is what I did to get over this stuff. And this is who I became because of it. And it's so extremely powerful. And I think for women out there, you know, we do hold— easy to hold a lot of shame. And I don't think it's the same for the masculine, that the masculine, the shame is not as, um, you know, not as prevalent and it's not as heavy. I'm not saying they don't have shame, for sure that they do, but you know, because of how we've been treated and how we were supposed to be and behave in society, and it was all about the looks and not about the depth of our character, and na na na na na, and we're trying to keep up when we're not enough, we're not enough, we're not enough, we have a lot of shame around that. So when women are willing to share that shame and to let it go, you know, as Brené Brown says, is if you put the light on the shame, the shame disappears. You know, it's funny you just said Brené Brown, because in my head I was like, oh, Brené Brown talks about shame. So yeah, yeah, yeah, that's her main thing. She's amazing. She's amazing. If you guys haven't listened to her, definitely listen to her. It's amazing. I love that you brought that up because it is, it is so powerful and we are ashamed to talk about the things that we've been through and done. And, and if we actually all shared it, it makes it okay for everyone else to be going through what they're going through as well. And I think when you do share it and you hear from other people going, yeah, I did exactly the same thing, or I've been going through the same thing, you're like, oh, oh, okay. Yeah, about this sooner. Yeah, exactly. Like, wow. I, I, um, When I tell my speakers, I'm like, I'm like, this is what's going to happen after you get off the stage. People are going to come up to you, they're going to hug you, and they're going to be like, oh my God, that was amazing, that was amazing. And then they're gonna go, yeah, me too, me too. Yeah, because it's such a human experience. This is like, we're all having a very, very shared human experience, and the, the details are unique, but the experience is a universal experience. It's universal and personal at the same time. And that's the power of storytelling and unlocking your voice and finally sharing your truth. So one of the things I stand in for FabX is your claim to truth and identifying your claim to truth. And it's not the truth, it's your truth. And it's your truth because of what you've experienced in life. And when you start sharing your truth and the story that goes along with that truth, it has people has people take in that truth more. So it's not something they read on Instagram or heard from a guru. It's like they're listening to your story and what you learned from it and your truth. Now it has a way of rearranging their cells so they actually get an experience of transformation, seeing a wider point of view of life and of themselves. And when you shift someone's point of view, it's such a gift. Because we're all stuck in a point of view. It's just how human machinery works. This has nothing to do with us, actually. It's just like, oh, this is how our human machinery works. We get stuck in a point of view. Oh, that's interesting. But then when you hear a story that, that blows the doors off that point of view, all of a sudden there's new actions to take, there's new ways of thinking, there's new ways to show up in love, there's new ways to add joy to your life. Yeah, I love that. And I love, like, I think the voice is so powerful. Like you said, it's completely different to reading something. When somebody speaks, I think you, you, they, and they're speaking from the heart and that truth, you can feel the emotion in that. You can sort of feel their experience and their pain and their happiness and joy or whatever it is that they were feeling. And as they tell the story, you, I think it resonates at a deeper level. And I think, yeah, I think you're right. It's so much more powerful to hear it, hear the actual voice of the person who's saying it as well, to speak up. And it takes great courage to speak as well. I mean, public speaking, I think, is one of the biggest fears on the list of what people are afraid of. I think it's one of the biggest fears. And public speaking can just be to a group of 3 or 4 people, or it can be like a huge audience. But if you're able to do that and step into that, um, the courage of doing that and speaking from your heart, I think that is one of the most empowering things that you can do as anyone, not just a woman. So I think it's phenomenal. So I love that you are helping women and people step into this space and use their voice in a way that's impacting and, and shining the light for other people. I get so excited about this. I start to get all emotional. I love it. I think it's so powerful. It's just incredible. So I love it that you're doing this. So what, what led you down the path to do this then? When the pandemic happened, I'm in— I, I was in isolation for 3 weeks because I thought I had COVID. Oh wow. And it was very, very the beginning of the pandemic, and I was having symptoms of COVID I didn't know what it was. We didn't know what it was. So I was like, I'm just going to go into isolation just in case I infect anybody else. I don't know what's happening, so I'm just going to be responsible. And I get a call from my sister Andrea, and my mom had a stroke, and she was in the hospital, and no one could go in with her because of the, the pandemic. Yeah. And then she called— my sister calls me back to give me an update, and Mom had an aneurysm. And I just broke down because my mom is the most loving, courageous, supportive woman in the world. I'm like, she cannot die like this! And I just start screaming out into the universe, no, she cannot go like this! Someone needs to be with her! And then I start screaming as the, you know, the echoes through the villa and up into the sky. There's one thing that I said that just stuck me. And I screamed out, I've been scared for so long. And I was like, God, makes me emotional now. Yeah. And I knew I wasn't talking about the pandemic. I knew I was talking about my whole life. And I had been spending my life pleasing other people and just wanting to be good enough and wanting to have it all together and wanting to be in a place where finally I felt the success that everyone told me I would get if I played the game. Because I played the game so hard, Janine. I was like, executive corner office, doing it, the advertising. And it was so fun. I had a lot of fun, but it was so not fulfilling. And I actually didn't get what I wanted. So when I finally went to a meditation the next day, as I was feeling into like, okay, Colleen, if you've been so scared, what would you do if you weren't scared? And what came up was I would tell stories from the stage. And I was like, Okay, that's interesting. And then just following that little voice and it just started. I just followed that little voice and I was like, well, I don't necessarily want to be the only person telling stories. And what if I trained others to tell stories with me? And then we did these underground storytelling events in Bali where we were allowed to get a certain amount of people together. And it was during the pandemic, but it was just this time for us to gather. Inside of the regulations. So it was all on the up and up, even though we kind of just kept it on the down low. And it just grew from there. And then I didn't know how healing it was going to be for people to get on stage and share their story. I just thought we would get on stage and entertain people and share our wisdom and what was really happening in our lives. But people started healing from the stage, and the people speaking and the audience members were healing too. They got themselves in such a new way that they understood the greatness inside of them. And this is what FabX really is about, is really understanding the greatness inside of you, and that everybody has greatness. And we have greatness because we're human. It's not actually that magical. It's not that magical. It's just like, we are— we're human, and every human has greatness inside of them. And we're the only ones who are in the way of that greatness from showing up.. And if you're interested in tapping into that greatness, one of the best ways of doing that is to share your voice and your story and get in front of people, because then you could just really get— I mean, you can't unring the bell when everyone's clapping for you, standing ovation, sharing with you, hugging with you, thanking you, crying with you. You cannot unring that bell that, wow, my voice makes a difference. My story matters. I'm here to actually create more peace, love, joy on this planet. And how I can do that is by sharing myself more. And being and having that as a contribution, having your shine be the contribution that you are on this planet instead of backing away from shining. Like, by you shining, you're contributing. By you paying, by you getting the attention and sharing yourself, you're contributing to the masses. You're contributing to the overall frequency of this planet. I mean, one of the most beautiful things that you just said earlier was like, when you speak, You can feel the emotion coming out of the mouth, right? You can— it's the words are infused with a frequency. And if you start to— so one of the things I teach in FabX is you start to consciously create the frequency that you are, and you create your, you know, your impact frequency for who you're going to be out on the planet, and you infuse your beingness with it and also your words with it. And now your words have more weight, more gravitas, more impact than just like blah blah blah blah blah blah blah, because most of us are blah blah blah blah blah, and there's nothing wrong with that. But when you consciously start to create the frequency that you are and the imprint and the transmission that you want to give to people, all of a sudden who you become is grander. Your exalted self, your more true, full, authentic self, your created self and the more impact you're going to have on others. And it's magnetizing. People love it, you know, it's totally magnetizing and it's opening and it's healing and it's expansive. And all of a sudden people get to evolve to the potential of what human being human is. Yeah, I love that. I love that. I would say if you want to empower a woman, give her a mic. Yeah, give her a mic. Because when you stand up and speak I think something hap— not only do you share your story, but you connect to yourself and your heart and your truth in a deeper way, 100%. And it builds that confidence. I think it builds a confidence in you that only comes through stepping up and standing in the light and shining and daring to speak. It's a kind of confidence you can't explain until you've stood up and done it and you experience it. And I think once you've done that and you've stepped into that arena, into that space of empowering yourself and you've spoken, with power and love and confidence. I think it, it, it stays with you and that becomes who you are and it, and it just definitely translates into everything in your life and it empowers you to believe in yourself on a whole new higher level. And I think it's absolutely phenomenal. 100%. Yeah, for sure. For sure. And I know that you're going to be doing some live events and some, um, online events and this is a chance for you to really step out as well, more and more onto the stage and sharing your voice and your genius and your greatness. I mean, what you're doing here is so profound, Janine. You know, you're giving platforms for women's voices to be heard. And then also the chance for other women to learn from, uh, from the women that are willing and to be inspired by them. It's beautiful. And I, I've also been so guilty in the past of not standing up and being afraid to share who I am and my story. And I've, and I've put on events for other people and I've put on, you know, in a big events, I've done all the marketing. I've come on the stage and introduced them and then like scurried off. But like never really put myself there. And it's fear. It's like I was afraid, or I didn't think I was good enough, or that I had something that was, you know, that was good enough to contribute to the world. And I think there's a lot of people that feel like that. So I love that you're helping people tap into that and bring that out in them, because like you said, we've all got a story, we've all got something, and it's scary. It's scary owning that part of yourself and standing up and sharing it. It's like ripping out your heart from your chest and holding it to the world and going, here, here it is. This is who I am. It's terrifying, you know, it's like, well, let's keep it locked in there where it's safe. But yeah, open it up, open it and dare to bear and, you know, dare to share greatly, I think. Yeah. Yeah. That's beautiful. It's so beautiful. And Janine, even that story right there, because, you know, you're, you're a stunning woman. And people make up stories about attractiveness level. Oh, she has it all together, and that's good for her. Of course she can have a radio show because look at her. But when you start revealing yourself, these tender things that you're dealing with, like, yeah, I've been hiding behind other people's events because I have a story of ha ha ha, whatever it is, or I don't feel safe. And because of blah blah blah that happened to me as a kid. Yeah. Now all of a sudden people are just like, oh, right, she's human just like me. She has challenges as well. Oh my God, I have those challenges. Oh, I feel more related to her. And that, for women, relationships are everything. And we want to feel connected. We don't want to feel the competition, the comparisonitis that most of us have, that of course is fueled by the society that's been created. Yeah, that's not what lights us up. That's not what has us feel joyous and, and who we truly are. It's when women share— I mean, share the shite— that is finally like, oh my God, share the shite! Hashtag share. Yeah, yeah. So, you know, if you get on stage and you say who you've been in the past and then you— and then they see you on stage and they're like, that— they get the courage that it took. And they also say, oh my God, if she can do it, I can do it too. Yeah, I can see myself in doing that as well. So inspiring them to take those courageous actions, you know. But if you get up and you talk about how great everything is and, you know, I did this and I got this award and I climbed Mount Everest— and there's nothing wrong with that, you can say that, but it's a very distinct transmission. And a lot of people in the seats think, oh, isn't that good for her? Not even in a negative way, like, oh, that's good for her. But they don't think like, oh, I could do that too. But if you talk about like, you know, it takes a lot for me to stand on the stage. I have it that it's not safe up here. And then they're, they're like, oh, oh, she does that too? Oh, oh my God. Okay, but she's up there now. All of a sudden it's like, oh wow. I could do that too. Instead of from, isn't that good for her? Like, oh, I could be that too. And that's where the inspiration comes in. That's when you can be inspiring to people, when you start sharing the shite. Yeah. I call it telling one on yourself. Oh, I love that. Telling one on yourself. Yeah. Yeah. It's true, isn't it? It's true. And when people are standing up there doing it, they probably didn't get it right the first time. And I think people are scared, aren't they, sometimes to stand up and do it. Like, I'm the first, even just the first radio show I recorded, um, couple of months back, it is now, um, I completely ballsed up. I got the— I got, um, my guest's name wrong. I did the whole thing and then I deleted the show and had to re-record it. So great. Yeah, you know what, it doesn't matter because you just redid it, did it, you get back on the horse, you redo it again and you learn and you grow and until it becomes who you are and it becomes comfortable and just becomes, yeah, what you do. And who you are. Yeah, keep doing it. And it's like, yeah, and you never know what's going to come out in a radio show. I love it. I love that. Yeah, but I think, yeah, and if you give yourself space to make mistakes. Yes. Give yourself space to make mistakes, especially on something new. And people aren't looking for perfection. I love that I messed that up. People aren't looking for perfection. They're looking for connection. It was like, that was like, yeah, I love that. So good, right? I think it's better when you do mess up, I think, and then you laugh about it like you just did then, and you own it and you laugh about it. I think that's even better because that, that creates, I think, a relationship with people and shows that you're human. And I think when you're comfortable and happy with yourself, you can just laugh at yourself. I think you're winning at life, personally. Like, you know, yes, we all mess up, so who— so what? There's times when the FabX speakers forget a line sometimes, and it's very, very rare that they do because it's their story. So another thing, storytelling is the easiest and the most rewarding way to get on the stage, the first initiation to the stage, because you're not there to prove anything. You're not there to show your expertise. You're just sharing your story. And because it's your story, you remember it. You're like, oh yeah, then this happened and this happened and I did this. So it's easy, a lot easier. I mean, don't get me wrong, it's not easy, but it's a lot easier than trying to be the professor and like, this is the studies say, and you have to remember all these details. But some of them misalign and I'll just read it to them. And what's great in editing, you never know because we just edit it out for the video. But nobody cares in the audience and they actually kind of like it. They enjoy seeing the behind the scenes. They enjoy seeing like, oh, how 'How does this work?' Oh, it's okay to not be perfect. It doesn't matter because the audience forgets about it. They don't care. They don't care that you had to start a line over. They're like, 'Whatever.' They're in the story. They're like, 'Then what happened next?' 'Okay, whatever, she forgot a line, who cares?' Yeah, that's— and we think that the audience is our adversaries, but they're not. They're our advocates. Because if we win on stage, they get to be entertained. They get to feel something. They get to experience. If we flop on stage, they've just wasted their time. No one wants that. Yeah. You know, so it really is, they're just, they're cheering us on and be like, do a good job. Good. Do a good job. Do a good job. Yeah. I love that. I love that. And I am, like you said, I'm, um, I'm actually going to be running events, but I'm going to put myself on stage and I'm going to speak. And that brings up so much fear. I am, I'm going to just be honest. I am absolutely terrified. I've got No qualms standing on stage and interviewing other people or talking about them and bigging them up. But when it comes to being about myself and sharing my truth and my vulnerability, like, I feel it now. It's almost like an anxiety and a fear here. And I'm like, oh, because I've been hiding from doing it. And like, I was a TV presenter. I've been on stage on so many events throughout the years. I present a radio show. But to stand up and be a public speaker myself is scary. But you know what, I'm still going to do it. And I know that at the end of doing it the first time, I'll probably be like, that was epic. So if anyone's listening to this and thinking that they want to do it, don't think that, you know, that you need to not have any fear and know everything. Just, just, just, just bloody decide to do it and then work with someone like Colleen and get it done because I'm going to do it and it scares me. But I think fear is good because I think when you're afraid of something, it, um, it shows you how important it is to you. And that's where I think— that's where the growth is, like, it's outside of that comfort zone, isn't it? When the fear comes in. If you don't have a bit of fear, which is, which is basically kind of excitement, then it's probably not even worth doing anyway. So I think it's great that, you know, if you've got a bit of fear about this stuff. So I think it's— and I love that you are getting women to do it and people to Is it just women that you work with? No, it's not just women, but most— it is mostly women. There's a— which is great because usually on stages you're trying to find women. Yes, yes. So there's a huge, um, uprising of women willing to take to the stage, which is, which is, uh, this is profound and amazing. And yeah, so I'm actually trying to find more men. I'm just feeling my Bali retreat or Bali training right now and Mostly women, like 14 women and 1 man, I think. That's like, are they like roles reversed? Is that in Ubud and Bali? Yeah. Yeah. There's a lot of women in Ubud, I've got to say. When I was living out there, there was more women than men. Yeah, there's more women. But usually, because I've been in this sort of personal development arena for 20-odd years now, it is men, male, it has been male dominated. So. I love there's more women coming forward. Yeah. Because, you know, women, yeah, when women speak, it's, it's more powerful in a way because it comes from that kind of soft, feminine, loving, authentic way as well. I don't know, I find a woman who's in that space who speaks really, really powerful. Yeah. Yeah. Well, I think it's, you know, it's a different type of power, you know, it's a different type of impact. It's just that transmission again of of the words and how it lands in other people's bodies. And the feminine lands in one way and the masculine lands in another way. And they're both extremely powerful when done well and with maturity. But it has been male-dominated, so it's not balanced. And nature doesn't like an imbalance. Nature balances itself all the time. So if we follow nature, we can see that it's really important for us to create that balance and to make that important and to be a stand for that and to take the actions needed to do that inside of love. One of the things that I'm teaching right now is just how to be a disruptor with love, because we're so— as humans, our human machinery has this patterning all the time. We love patterns. This is why we replicate this past again and again and again. You might often find yourself like, oh, here I am again. Doing the same thing. It's because our human machinery that has us do that. But then there's chance to disrupt that when all of a sudden you and other people can start seeing a different way when you disrupt it from your voice and just say, you know, there is a different way and here's how I did it, and give them a pathway to do it. Now all of a sudden again, people are evolving in new ways that, that weren't possible before, and it's disrupting that pattern. And then the disruptor becomes the next pattern, of course, and then you get to disrupt that pattern. It's all an evolution. And what you were talking about, it's like the fear. If you're willing to live a growth, you know, an expansive life, if that's what's important to you. Yeah. Being on that edge and where the fear comes up, I mean, that's where expansion happens. It doesn't happen in the comfort zone. And, you know, you don't have to even go far across your edge. Like we talked about earlier today in this conversation about baby steps. I often, when I coach people, I'm like, how do we get you 4% over your comfort zone? How do we just, you know, we're just expanding you, we're creating little bridges, little bridges, little bridges to the next evolution of you. And then the more you do that, the more you can actually take those quantum leaps and find yourself on stage. You know, you getting on stage and having the courage to do it and feeling the fear and doing it anyway, that's profound. That's going to be profound for you. And there is something that happens because everybody, you know, it's miraculous that FabX even exists. Because people say getting on stage is— I'd rather die than get on stage. So the fact that anyone's doing it, I'm like, wow, that's awesome. But when they get on stage, there's always this nervousness at first, and then something clicks, and then they get it. They get that they're safe. They get that people are paying attention to them and interested in them. They get that they're being seen and understood, and then they just come alive. So you'll experience that when you start. You're going to feel the nerves. No problem. Just know that you're going to be nervous at first. It's okay. No one cares. And then once you get into the flow, it's just like the energy just expands. And I can see it happening with my students on the stage. I'm like, oh, there it goes. They just got it. And then it's hard to get them off stage. I'm like, okay, Trying to pry the microphone out of the hand. Yeah, I'm like that when I do karaoke. I am too. I can't sing, but you put a microphone in my hand when I've had a glass of wine, so it's not leaving. Yeah, that's so great. So, um, so you'll see our FabEx events. So is it just in person, or have you got an online version? Because I know it's out in Bali, so if there's people listening that are not based in Bali, can they access it? Can they, can they watch? Yes, can they watch it? Yeah, yeah, for sure. So I have an online program that's just launching here. It's going to launch on February 14th, 2023. So I'll be doing it once or twice a year. Valentine's Day, love that. Yes, yeah, yeah, yeah. It's like loving yourself to step up into your voice and your power. And, um, it really is about people who want to teach, inspire, and influence from the stage. So people who want to use their stories And, you know, I attract a lot of coaches because this is very important as a coach to know your story. It's your unique imprint that nobody else can have because it's your story. And of course, you know, every well-known coach or celebrity coach knows their story and shares their story over and over again and their transformation stories. So a lot of coaches, a lot of business owners like it as well because they can use it in order to inspire their team, you know, use it in marketing, and also use it to raise money. But you can— it's an 8-week program where you get online and I teach you the storytelling formula, and you, you walk away with that, and you can use it all over the place. You know, you can use it in your personal life and your business life, and it really just empowers you to start using your voice in a really beautiful, unique way. And it's not— it's the Fabix way of telling a story, but it's not the only way of telling stories. It's a formula I created from my years of, you know, pitching large companies like Google, Microsoft, and New Line Cinema and Coca-Cola, where I had to, you know, I had the CEO of the company standing in front of me. I had impressed that guy, usually was a guy. And so I did that through storytelling. And then I also have a background in improv and acting and storytelling to kids, which I did for as a volunteer for kids in in hospitals. But so I've taken all the stuff that I've learned and created this formula, and it's just a chance to speak differently, which is another way of disrupting, and a chance to really stir the emotional pot where emotions are activated and people feel alive. You know, how we feel alive is through emotions. This is why we go to the movies. We're sitting in a dark movie theater, but we're watching something that's having us feel emotions, and we want to come alive. And that's what the storytelling does. So people are interested in doing that, they can get online. And then at the end, there's a summit. I have a storytelling summit. So people, it's kind of like a graduation. They get to share their story in front of hundreds of people online, and they get feedback and testimonials. And, um, yeah, it's a really, it's a really cool, it's a really cool experience. It's a little different, of course, than the peak experience of being on stage, but it does get you on, it does initiate you into like, okay, I'm now using my voice and my story as a powerful tool to not only get more success, but to spread more love, more joy, more impact, and making the difference that most people want to make while they're here. It's a good start, isn't it? It's like a stepping stone start, like you said before, like taking baby steps. You are still speaking in front of, in front of an audience, even if it's online. So I love that you're doing that and then you're getting people to showcase afterwards. There's a lot of people out there teaching courses. And then people are like, well, what do we do now? Where do we go from here? So I love that you're doing the follow-up where you're actually giving them the chance to then, you know, use the skills they've just learned. And also it's given them that accountability that they've got to do the work because at the end of it they're going to stand up and speak. So there's no hiding. It's like, come on, you know, you've got to really invest yourself in it and do it. And then you get to share and, you know, what you just learned. I think that's incredible. And it just it really encodes it in on a deep level and it gives you that chance to grow that confidence in doing it by sharing it and getting that feedback and testimonials. Just phenomenal. So I love that. I love that what you're doing. It's brilliant. Yeah. Great. Yeah. How do people find this online? What's your, what's your website for this? The website is fabx.tv. Cool. So on that you can find the talks, you can find all the talks that have been videoed and professionally done. And so you walk away when you do the Bali, uh, experience, you walk away with a professionally shot video that you can use for your business, for your coaching business. And, um, all the programs that are available— I actually have a free webinar coming up on Tuesday, on the 24th of January. So you can find that if you're hearing from— I think this might be done, I don't know if this is going to be launched by then, but the free webinar will also be recorded. So I'll put that on the website as well so you can just learn about what it is to harness the power of your story into, into really stand up for your greatness and making that impact that you want to make. Yeah. So, so people can work with you in person in Bali, which might be a good reason to go to Bali for holiday, FYI. Yeah. Yeah. So how long? Yeah, brilliant. Any excuse to get to Bali. So what would they do if they were working out with you in Bali? You spend like a period of time with them and then you said you film it at the end. What's, what's the process that you take them through? So right now it's an 8-week process. So most of the people, because it's happened in the pandemic, most of the people that take FabEx right now live in Bali. So it's an 8-week— we meet once a week, and at the end of it, I put you on the stage in front of 150 people with lights, cameras, and it's just stunning. You could put this show in New York and LA, and people would love it. Even in London, they would just be like, oh yeah, this show belongs here. And I will say that everybody on the FabEx stage nails it. Even if they forget their line, they just nail it. It's just amazing how people have the ability to this. And then they think that they don't because everyone comes nervous. They're just as fearful as you are, you know, and their heart's beating when they think about it. When they're signing up with me, their heart's beating. They're like, I can't believe I'm doing this, you know. But they have the calling to do it. They know it's what they should be doing. They want to be doing it. Their soul is like, yes, this is what I need to be doing. But everyone, everyone on the stage just comes alive and nails it, and it's just the audience is in awe. So, so after the 8 weeks, you get on, you get on the stage and you have that experience, and there's a big party afterwards. And it's— people call it TEDx with a heart and soul, that kind of level. Yeah, yeah, it's like, it's like FedEx but FabEx. I love that. So you get there faster, you get delivered to your heart. FabEx. Yeah, that's great. I think even if you don't want to be a public speaker or you're not a coach, it's a great thing to do Um, because it just, it, it brings up that confidence in yourself and it connects you to your own heart and then speaking your truth in general, but in life, just interacting with other people. So I think it'd be a great thing to do just like through as a confidence thing as well, even if you don't want to particularly be a public speaker. I think it's a great— for sure. Yeah, for sure. And essentially what happens, who you are before the stage and who you are after the stage is dramatically different. Yeah. And the confidence that gives you as a solid thing of who you are, not like something you're trying to get to. And when you like, confidence is the pathway to more where all of a sudden you're taking more risks. You go up to that person across the room that you've been meaning to talk to, you launch the business that you've been sitting on, you quit the job that you hate, you ask out the woman that you've had a crush on for, you know, so many years, all of a sudden you're taking these seemingly what used to be risky actions and they're just, they just become the next action to take. Like, oh, I should go do that. Like, it's not even like, oh, I don't know, I can't do it. Like, oh no, I should go talk to that person. Oh no, I'm quitting my job, I'm not doing this anymore. It's just like the next action to take. So that's why, that's why the building the confidence is so, so important and it's not to get confidence, even though it seems like, oh, I just want more confidence. It's like, actually, it's the thing after that you get the confidence that you're looking for, that life that you know is possible for yourself, those actions that you know that you want to take that you've been sitting on, haven't taken them. And all of a sudden, your life becomes richer, rounder, fuller, and you're stepping into that more of what I call the exalted self, that one that is just totally in power. And taking actions from there. I love that. I love what you said, confidence is a pathway to more. That's just, yeah, how it's such a simple sentence but so powerful. That's definitely tweetable, isn't it, that one? Hashtag. Can you give us like any little, little something that someone can listen to now and maybe apply to their life, have a little, have a little play with that'll help them lock in, you know, unlock their voice and their truth? So one of the things that you could do, let's talk about the claim to truth because this is, this really powerful when you start to think about, you know, you're what you believe to be true in life, and you just pay attention. So most people don't pay attention to this. They have their values, but they've never really spoken their values. It kind of drives them. There's kind of hidden. So if we bring out the claim to truth, one of the ways that you can look at this as the claim to truth is, so let's say that the Angel of Death has tapped you on the shoulder and has turned you around and said, you're, you're going to leave this physical plane. Yeah, exactly. You're going to leave this physical plane in 2 minutes, but before you go, I'm going to give you a chance to tell everybody on the planet what they need to know before you go. So imagine you, you have one thing that you can say. You have a couple minutes to say it. What do people need to know about life before you leave here. And then once you start identifying that, you'll notice, then you want to see, why do I believe that? Why is this true for me? And you'll notice that there'll be stories about your experience in life and what you've been through to have you know that that's a truth for yourself. And you map back those stories to that claim to truth. And now all of a sudden you have a story that inspires and leaves people a gift for people. So the first, the first level of FabX is just storytelling. You're not there to convince people, to motivate them, to teach them really anything. I mean, you do teach them stuff, but that's not the point. Is just here's a gift if you want. If you want the gift, here's the gift. And you don't have to take the gift, but here's me sharing my heart and my experience and my wisdom with you if you want it. So it's very soft. Very lovely. So it's just the gift that you want to give people, and you map back a story of why you, why you know that to be true. It's like not something that you've read on Instagram or that you heard from somebody else, you read in a book. It is what you know to be true. Another way of thinking of what would you plaster on all the outdoor billboards? What's the saying you would plaster on all the outdoor billboards to inspire people? And then why, why that saying? And it usually maps back to something that, you know, it's some sort of transformations, you know, something in childhood happened. And so for, so for me, I had an experience where my, one of my siblings was very abusive to me. And because of that emotional and verbal abuse that I got on a daily basis, I became extremely empathetic. And so, you know, one of my truths is, is that you have to care about people. You have to care if you're going to live a life that is full and rich. You're gonna have to care. But to care hurts, because if you're gonna care, you're gonna get your heart broken. But it's worth it, because you don't want to roll into that grave with a heart that's underneath a bell-shaped glass that's perfectly there and shriveled up. It's only when you care and set your heart free and it breaks over and over and over again where the light and the expansion happens. So that's my claim to truth, and that came from this childhood of empathy and caring so much. I became a voice for the underdog. I was always friends with the, the person who had one arm or, or the person who wore the special bus because I didn't want anyone left behind. And so that resonated throughout my whole life. So those types of things that you get to uncover. But it wasn't until I started storytelling that I get like, oh yeah, that's what happened. Oh, now I know a little bit more about myself. Now I know my why, why I behave the way I behave. So when I started uncovering my claims to truth, that's when I was able to unlock my voice because I had something to say. Because a lot of people are like, what am I going to say? I don't have anything to say. No, you do. You just have to, you just have to cultivate the treasure within. You have to excavate it. Yeah. I love that. I'm not surprised at all that you, um, you're now teaching people about storytelling because you are such a natural storyteller. Like just the way that you describe things or the way that you share it, you're just, you're, it's, it's like mesmerizing listening to you speak. I can honestly just sit here for hours listening to you speak. I'm like, you're phenomenal. No wonder you teach your people about storytelling because it's It is your gift. It's like your genius. And it is an absolute joy to listen to you share about stuff. I'm like, I love the way that you see speaking about these things. This is incredible. So I can see, I can see. Yeah. And I love that. Um, when you said, when you get people into their, into their truth and then uncovering the reason why, and that gives you, it gives you what you're talking about. And when you, when you say it like that, yeah. Oh yeah. That seems so obvious and so simple, but, but yet, you know, how would you know that unless somebody like you comes along and teaches you that that's how you do it? That's how you open up your heart and uncover it. Love that. Oh, Colleen, you blow me away. This is absolutely wonderful. So great, Jeannine. I really appreciate this conversation as well. Oh, I know, it's really, really wonderful. Um, so what, what, so what, um, do you think has been your biggest hurdle with this new, this new storytelling business that you're doing and this new kind of trying to bring this out on people? What's the biggest hurdle you've come over by trying to get this out there? The biggest hurdle is really myself and my own smallness. I mean, really, it's just seeing myself as the person, the bigness that's possible with FabX, because, you know, FabX, it looks like it's me.. But it's not me. It's me and my students. FabX is the students. You know, I look like I'm on the front of the room teaching and na na na, but really FabX are the students and they, they carry it. I mean, they create FabX as the magic that it is. And I get to be the holder of that container for sure. I'm definitely a part of the soup, but the flavor are the students. And, but, you know, holding this and really, really having it be okay for me to keep on shining, keep on getting bigger, taking this global and, you know, being out there on video and sharing my voice. You know how, you know, the expression— there's an expression, you, you teach what you most need to learn. And I've changed it to, you teach what you most want to learn. And I think, like, I feel like I'm gonna get punished if I say step out of line. So it's like, stay in the line, stay in the line, and live this really small life. So yeah, that's the biggest thing I'm dealing with right now, getting out there and sharing my voice. So how do you get over that? So when that, when those hurdles are coming up for you, how do you overcome that? Well, I reach out to people and I give myself baby steps. Like, so this is a key thing for me. When you reached out to me, I'm like, and I'm a yes to this conversation, that these are the baby steps. And so just taking those steps towards where I want to go, what are the steps? You know, if I reverse engineer it, what are the steps I need to take? Oh, I need to get on with Janine, talk to her on her Amazing radio show. Now we're talking. That's activating to me. That's support. Mic drop. Easy. You know, I get to connect with a powerful woman doing powerful things out in the world, which, you know, of course, is a— you know, I get to use this equity that you have, you know, the trust that you have with your speakers bringing me on this show. I mean, it's a privilege. It's a privilege. And taking advantage of that. Trusting, trusting that what needs to be revealed will be revealed and what needs to be said will be said and who shows up is exactly supposed to show up and just trusting that. I love that, that trust. Yeah, that trust in what needs to be revealed. It takes all that pressure out of it, doesn't it? Can it? Yeah, trust is a big thing. Sometimes we often don't trust ourselves and in ourselves, that's why we hide and hold back. So I think that you're just saying that you're just going to trust in it and then when something comes up, say yes. Like, would you want to be on the radio show? Yes. Just, just say yes and then work out how you're going to do it later. I think it was— yes, yes, jump straight in, jump straight in. So I love that. So what is your biggest bit of advice that you could give to somebody listening? The biggest piece of advice, and I think this comes down to everything, is just, um, honoring and acknowledging yourself for the greatness that you are and that you've created so far in life. And really, really seeing yourself and the hurdles that you've been through and what, who, where you are now, even if it's not where you want to be, just acknowledging where you've come from and who you are. Because most people have— they don't look back and they don't, they don't really take that time to acknowledge themselves. And, you know, the, the purpose of that is just to really love yourself, because when you start to, you know, to love yourself and to really accept yourself, all of a sudden you're, you're no longer constrained by the stories of the past, and they just fade away. And you can start seeing where— and, and, you know, where you came from has nothing, absolutely nothing, to do with where you're going. And you've Everybody, everybody— it's a universal personal experience— has dealt with heartbreak, falling down to their knees, not getting what they want, being mistreated, and they made it through. They've pulled themselves up by the boots of their straps of their boots. They have been willing to take those courageous steps to get out of the hole. They've been willing to say where they made mistakes, you know. And so just acknowledging that, that you've done that And that empowers you like, oh my God, I am strong. I can do this. You know, I'm powerful enough to handle it, whatever comes my way. And that means I'm powerful enough to create the life I say that I want. I love that. I'm powerful enough to create the life I say that I want. Because people often say that they want something, but they never actually take action on doing it. They talk about it. And I think owning that, like you just said, that you're powerful enough to create the life that you say you want. If you say you want it, do it. Yeah. Yeah. Powerful stuff, Connie. Powerful stuff. So what's been your favorite and your biggest aha moment, do you think, over the last decade or so? Your journey of life and awesomeness. Yeah. You know, the, there is this discovery that storytelling, that everybody has a powerful story to share with people that is a contribution. And that discovery is, is pretty amazing that, you know, when you learn people's stories, you, you can be taken to your knees by what they share. And, and it's, it's a lot of people. It's where you came from has nothing to do with who you get to be. The stories that we hear on the Staback Stage, they are very tender, vulnerable, real stories of life. They are not the rah-rah moments of life. So you hear about, you know, the, the woman who is now a profound global healer who used to be abused by her dad by hanging her from her neck. You hear about disease and, and, you know, childhood cancer, and now, you know, they're a successful businesswoman.. You hear about alcoholism and drug abuse and addiction, living on the streets, and now he's a successful coach supporting men to step into their power. You hear these stories and you can't deny that it's so true that where you come from has nothing to do with where you go, where you can go, because there's so many of those stories. It's again, your brain finds so much evidence, it's like, oh, Right. I can no longer sit back and say I can't do that because of ha ha ha ha ha. Like, you get real with yourself. And that's a huge discovery when you really get like, oh, I can do anything I say that I can do. Because look at these people. If I was abused, if I was an alcoholic, if I stole from people, if I cheated on my wife, if I was the bully, was the abuser, All that can be transformed and you can have a totally different life and it has nothing to do with who you are now unless you say so. I love that you shared that because I think often people use their stories and what they're going through to stop them from going for the thing that they really want. And it's almost like that kind of victim mindset. Well, this happens to me, so that's why I don't have the relationship, the body. 'the career, the house, or the what, the happiness,' or whatever it is that they're saying that they want. 'It's because of XYZ happened to me.' But actually, in owning that, and, and that it doesn't matter what happened to you because everyone's been through it, and then that's where your power and your compassion and your wisdom comes from, because you've been through that experience and you've learned from it. That's what propels you towards the things that you want, and that's empowering. I think it's really liberating. So I love that, that you, you brought that up, because I think, I think the bigger the hardship someone's been through, the more, um, space there is, um, for compassion and wisdom and learning. The more life lessons around, the more you can share of your heart, because you have a bigger understanding of what other people are going through as well. So I think it's, it's a great thing, not necessarily a bad thing. And so I think I love that you said that it doesn't matter. It absolutely doesn't matter. So if listening to this now thinking, well, I can't do what I want to do because of XYZ, know that you can. And yeah, and it's been proven. Like, maybe they can go and listen to some of the speakers from your FabEx online if you want to be inspired and listen to some of their stories. And I'm sure that, you know, that will help if you're struggling and thinking what's holding you back. Have a listen. We're running out of time, but, um, I thought we were— yeah, we're at the end. The end is near. Do you want to just end on a little comment of truth or something? Oh, so I also say that your authentic self means you're not born authentic. You're, you create your authentic self. And so my created authentic self is love, joy, and bold courage. And so, you know, try that on, try on some values that you feel like you are the frequency that you want out in the world. You know, Gandhi says, be the change, not do the change. So who are you being out in the world? And what's the frequency that you want to? Transmit to people and let that infuse your beingness. You know, you can be inspiring, motivating, empathetic, vulnerable, powerful, joyous, alive. You know, there's a lot of different things that you can be. But so that's the challenge, and just try it on for a little bit and see if, uh, it makes a difference in your life. I love that. I love that. And on that amazing bombshell, I'm gonna say thank you for listening. This has been the Eat Love Do Show. 9 AM and 9 PM all week. Listen up, and we'll catch you next time. Thank you so much, Colleen. Beautiful. Thank you, sweetheart.