Free Your Mind – Dr Daryll Wharton

Hello and welcome to this week's edition of Free Your Mind, Let's Talk About It with LKJ on www.womensradiostation.com, the award— multi-award-winning mental health radio station dedicated to you, the listener, dedicated to know that we are there for you. This week's show has been sponsored all the way from the USA as they bridge the gap with the UK, bringing their voices on the Sean Fair leadership tour in June next year to show you, you are enough, you are not worthless, that we have to deal with the problems in our mindset. We have to believe in ourselves. We have to stand, look at the reflection, truth, honesty, that you are enough and only you can change that mindset. But with the help of fabulous mindset coaches like the lady that we're going to bring on in a moment is incredible. I met her in Michigan, D.C. on my arrival. She offered my help and coming in the car for a meal and she told me her story. This woman in front of me, I could not believe. She must have been talking about somebody else. There's a woman inside that was different. She told me about her mindset, how she changed, how she lost over 600 pounds. Yes, 600 pounds. Well, she tried everything and then took action. On that, I'm going to bring our wonderful guest From the USA, Dr. Darryl Wharton. Hello and welcome to Free Your Mind. Let's talk about it, Velcro. And thank you for sponsoring this show where your sponsorship has gone now into the pot. We're raising thousands, over £100,000 to help people with mental health to get that mindset ready and With this show being aired now in the new year, where everybody's rushing to the gym, you've eaten all your turkey, you've had all your crisps, you've really gone, "I don't want it," but you're going to eat it. You've opened the box of chocolates that somebody's given you for Christmas, slowly through the day, you've eaten the whole box without realizing what you've done to yourself rather than putting it away. Welcome, Dr. Daryl Walton, and can you introduce Sorry, my apology. Introduce yourself to the show and to the listeners who I know are going to go wild on this show. Hi, beautiful, how are you? It's so good to be here. It's amazing to have you here. I— when I met you in Michigan and your story, your message on stage was incredible. To give you that belief to come in and look at your mindset and what you have. You have a battle worse than any divorce, any— your mind is your biggest battle. Yeah, we have to look after the wellness of that mind. So can you just introduce yourself and tell the listener? First of all, as I always do on that show, I like you to open up as we start gently to free you into your mind, allowing our listeners, if anyone has any emotional mental health triggers regarding the subject of food, because as you did state to me, the only thing we have to control is food. We need food, we have to eat food to survive. So can you take us back and tell us who you are, where you came from, siblings, etc., and how was you as a child bringing through to the first stage where you had a struggle with food. Absolutely. Well, first let me say my highest weight was 674 pounds. So I know that people hear these numbers and they're just like, wow. But I've lost over 400 pounds. Um, I know it was so incredible. It was like, wow. So much. Yes, you lost an extra 200 pounds. Exactly. Well, um, I am Dr. Darryl Wharton, and I am a life transformation strategist. And I had the absolute pleasure of helping women who are struggling with inner self-doubt, you know, just trying to figure out where to start They're trying to lose weight. They're trying to build their confidence even more. And I help them to become the highest version of themselves. And it has been the best journey for me. I started gaining weight at about the age of 2, and at the age of 7, I joined Weight Watchers with my mom. My mom took me and she joined with me because she just didn't know what else to do. And From the age of 7 until the age of 28, I struggled. I— every summer I kept gaining weight. Every summer I could not fit the clothes that I wore last summer. And, you know, my mother was frustrated. I was frustrated. In high school, I was probably in the high 400s. And I tell people, I know that I cried myself to sleep almost every night in high school, just struggling. I spent so much money on diets, little, you know, back in the day they had the infomercials and I was just buying all of this stuff. I was trying everything that I could try. And finally I decided to have weight loss surgery and I did that at the age of 28. And I had some success with the surgery. I lost about 200 pounds with that surgery and I did feel a lot better. But unfortunately, I got stuck for the next 10 years, I was still weighing, you know, in the low 400s. And, um, it was a struggle. And I felt like I had settled. And my husband and I started our family. We had 3 girls back to back. And then when the baby turned 9, you know, that's my little joke, you know, the baby— I can't no longer say, hey, I just had a baby. I decided to get back on track. And I started with one affirmation: I am disciplined and focused. And that affirmation has carried me until today. And I used to say growing up, I just wanted to be skinny. I used to stand in front of a mirror as a little girl, and I used to close my eyes real tight, clenching my fists, you know, gritting my teeth together. And I used to say, God, please, when I open up my eyes, please, please, please, God, please let me be skinny. And I would open up my eyes and I would see no change and I would just cry and I just would say, you know, "Why me?" And that was probably at the age of 9. So I struggled. You know, I had good family, you know, home. I had friends in school and I just could not understand why me. No one else was fat like I was. And it had gotten to the point where I just needed to really realize that being skinny was not really my goal. My goal was to be healthy and well, my, you know, well in my spirit, well in my mind, and well in my body. And once I defined that, it was easier for me to create a path in order to get well and not so much focus on numbers on a scale. Now in today's society, I am still considered plus size, and you know what, I don't mind that because I'm still well and I'm happy and I feel 1,000% better. So one of my taglines is, I'm cute, curvy, confident, and I love that. It defines who I am, and I will never ever ever go back to that life of wanting to not wake up every day, and I feel amazing. And it can be done with the right coaching, the right, you know, guidance. And I utilize all of my degrees. I used to say I'm a professional student, but I have an undergrad in psychology, I have an undergrad in social work, and my master's is in special education. So I use I use all of those skills, all of those classes, all of that experience to help women to develop an effective plan that will get them to change who they are. Because diets do not work. You have to change who you are, and that means that you have to start with your mindset. That is, um, incredible. You know, when we're looking at things going back And like you said, I will never go back to not wanting to get up. A very, very powerful message for the listeners which will listen, to create a path to get well than the numbers on a scale. How many of us look at that scale, darn it, you tried all week, and pounds pop. A pound is better than none. Or a plus, but it's about happiness, being happy with yourself. To become as you did and to teach everyone when they come under your mentorship— and what a mentorship when you've tried everything— that in your mentorship is, I am disciplined, I am focused. But trying to work with people that you have to start with your mindset, as when I opened the show, you know, to want at the age of 9 to just say that phrase, God, God, please open my eyes. Yes, thank you. Please open my eyes, and I'm skinny. And when you opened your eyes you looked in the mirror and you were still carrying this excess weight. All you wanted was, "I just want to be skinny." What you wanted to do was change the mindset, so keep wanting and pushing this and trying every diet out there, was starting with your mindset that, "I am enough, I am worth it. Yes, fattest person here in high school. I hate this, I hate this." When joining, as most 7-year-old children are doing, happy in the program, food is not an issue. But from the age of 2, when you are, you know, growing the mind, a 3-year-old becoming fully formed, because it takes until you're 3 for it to be fully formed, and then to go through the stages through growing up to becoming you know, past teenager adolescence into adult, even adulthood, I think is harder than teenage years. We will focus on, you know, the teenagers, the struggle, these people that can't wait to leave school, hate school, don't want to know anything about it, you know, and we have all these issues with school, but those issues get greater in adulthood if we do not deal with them. But you took drastic action When you took surgery, that surgery that led you to lose 200 pounds, and again my apologies, 600 pounds, when you see the pictures and that will be coming out when I put that, you know, out as a journalist and write my own story about your incredible journey, show you on the front cover of my magazine, except to show people This is not fake. It's not one of those fake photographs they've stolen from the internet and said their product works because you're not going to sue them because they've just looked at you and thought, well, she's not going to worry about that. Well, you do. You affect somebody's mindset. With your mum trying to explain to you now, can we go back to age 7? Because Weight Watchers, who— and people that are on Weight Watchers now, where you can go to the supermarket here as you can in America, around the globe, send these products to help you. Something the food industry have done and governments around the world is trying to show you, like myself, I'm diabetic, what you're putting in, what is harming you. This is toxin. If you are subject to being a diabetic, why do we— we were to put a glass full of that sugar and all that stuff that we crave for, we know as a diabetic is going to You know, possibly put us in a diabetic coma. It could kill us, cause all effects. We're not having balance. We need balance in every aspect of our journey. Otherwise we can't disbalance the scales. It doesn't work. So by going back and looking at this, and we have to highlight this more so in January, as I was saying, with all the diets, the gyms, everyone signing up, committing they're going to be doing this. At 7 years old, when a child should be playing, when your peers are doing, or food— a lot of people like me, and I'm being completely honest here, I look as the parent what food I serve, what food you're consistent of. We see the plate, how you should proportion it. And the size of the plate. You know, rather than all these all-you-can-eat restaurants where people overload, they're taking no effect of what you're doing. Yes, we want to overindulge, and we have the right to do it. It's good to overindulge. Little and often, you know, not little, um, and often is what we should be doing with our plate. Little and often, even little snacks that are healthy. Yes, you might think it's boring, but if it's killing you You have to make a radical change. If you become a diabetic and you're diabetic later in your life because your diabetes type 2, which is led often to obesity, and obesity doesn't have to be where you are, 400 or say 600-odd pounds, 674, I think they said you were. Yeah. Uh-huh. Okay. So we look at the 674. Yeah. We're not looking at it for that way. We're looking at it that in the end, that would have killed you. This would kill you. You were eating food which was put into— if you put that into a glass like a diabetic and said, you drink that, Dr. Dyer, it's going to kill you, but you're going to drink it. You're going to go, do you think I'm crazy? I'm not going to drink that. But because your mindset isn't seeing it. That way, you see. Oh, yeah, all that chocolate. So as I say, when I'm saying about your parents and food, what's— so was this a genetic thing? You had a problem with yourself? Why the fat was turning on and more was coming on? Because on average for a woman, it's 1,500 calories a day is sufficient. You will not put weight on unless you've got underactive thyroid. Or something like that, a medical condition that would do that. Where a man is 2,000 calories. But when you add up and you actually go shopping using your mindset as the calculator to say, oh, that's what I'm having, when you proportionate, look at your plate, these are things that are going to save your life. They become the tools that you need for your mindset. But you also need an extremely, extremely powerful person to show you how to do it. One thing Weight Watchers does do, as we know, they're real women that go on here and they lose weight. We have a diet here called the Cambridge Diet. I've done the Cambridge Diet and it works. 3 months, you've got it off, but you have to keep to the maintenance of it. If you don't, you start putting weight on because your body's not used to that normal food. Slowly, what you're doing— many, many ones— we've got SlimFast, we've got so many diets, Atkins diet, we've got the intermittent fasting diet. For me, intermittent fasting is— you know, the more you try. But like I was saying, when you were 7, what sort of was your daily food intake? What was your mother giving you? You know what, it's so funny. I, I couldn't even tell you. I couldn't even tell you. And I've had to do a lot of soul searching to forgive my mother, um, and I'm gonna say in my mind, because you know I'm 51 years old now, so you know, as we grow older, we forget all of the details. So what we end up doing is filling in the blanks. So, you know, I know my mother, she, she tried, you know, she's like, okay, we're gonna go to Weight Watchers, you know. Um, and I don't even— I know I didn't have any success with that. I may have lost a couple of pounds. Um, I always mention Weight Watchers because I actually joined Weight Watchers 28 times. Starting at the age of 7. So I kept going back, um, among a whole bunch of other things, you know, SlimFast, the cabbage soup diet. I remember my mom taking me to several doctors where I was getting these B12 shots. Like, she tried, um, it would have been nice if she would have actually did the nutrition with me and not focus on a diet. And with my clients, I never say to, to diet, because what you need to do is change your relationship with food. And a diet does not do that. A diet gives you, okay, we're going to do this for a certain amount of time and then we're going to stop. But if you want long-term transformation and a long-term of wellness You need to continue with your nutrition plan, your new nutrition plan that will heal and nourish your body. I've been plant-based now for 7 years, and that was the other thing that my mindset allowed me to do. You could not have told me 10 years ago that I was never going to eat meat again, and it's something that I have incorporated into my lifestyle. It is a part of who I am. And so that's what people need to realize, is that you literally need to change who you are. I am no longer that 674-pound Darryl. I love her though, because she made the decision to have the surgery. So because of her, I am where I am today. And so the person that I look at myself right now, I know that I am setting the path for me 10 years from now. And so I often tell my clients, I want you to think of yourself as two people because we tend to help our friends before we help ourselves. So I have them to create a nickname for themselves, and this is going to be your best friend and you are going to help her to get well. And then it takes on a whole different role, and they end up really being successful because, you know, if you needed help, you know, I would help you. You know, we, we always put everybody else in front of ourselves, and so I have them to do this task so that they actually put themselves ahead of themselves. And I wish I would have known that at the age of 7 that I needed to actually be my own friend and encourage myself instead of trying to measure food. And, you know, and at 7, you know, I'm glad you brought up my mom because at 7, I'm not buying the groceries. But I know as a little girl, I used to sneak food. I used to hide food in my room. I was hungry all the time. And I actually still have a low— you know, I have a low thyroid that was discovered doing my pre-op, you know, doing all of my blood work for my gastric bypass surgery. I have a low thyroid, so it's difficult for me to lose weight. And we need to look at these weight issues and obesity as a medical condition because I had a brother and we all ate the same food in the house, you know, and, and my body responded differently than what his body responded to the food. So it's not just the food that we eat, we have to look at it as a medical condition. Because when I tell you I tried everything, I tried everything, everything. Yes, I can imagine when you were saying from when we go back again when he was 2-year-old talking around trying to do that and you know that was no personal resentment towards your mother. But what I was trying to say, any mother that's out there, if you are buying the groceries and it's not in there and you set out nutrition, you set that out, it is your role as a parent from when you are born to how much you give the bottle of milk. The guidelines say 7 scoops in 8 ounces of water if you're bottle feeding from that. If you're putting, oh no, that looks too watery, and no, she's a hungry baby, I'm going to put 10 scoops in. You're increasing it. If you are not, because sometimes, you know, they'll think, oh, the feed is every 4 hours, they're hungry again. You're starting— this is right from when your child is born. Yeah, your responsibility. This is your responsibility. Even when you are 80 years old, you are a mother. You are in charge. You're the head of that pack. You are teaching your child life. You are going to get your child to look up to you. You are setting their mindset up of how you behave, how you use effective language, how you use the letters of the alphabet to encourage, empower, and show your child from the day they're born the right path. If those paths become challenging and divert off, in the end you try to divert them back to that main road. Because sometimes, yes, there is a traffic jam, and that traffic jam can still apply to your mindset. Your mindset being, I need to free my mind. There's too much noise, there's too much stuff that is not leading you to correct and lead your day because of your own daily challenges. But over your daily challenges, you still have a child that needs you, that child needs you to provide the food, etc., that you need to start and eat. When you see some children, some mothers— and America is very different to the UK— when we bring that baby into having solids, normally you bring them off the milk to have solids. Now, in the UK, they don't believe in giving, um, food to a baby under the age of 6 months. They slowly give them little bits, chop up tiny little bits of food and give that to them to encourage them to— Now in America it's very different. You give them the whole slab of it, you know, there's the pizza, cut it in, they hold it up, it's all over their face, so that they're not taking small pieces, that they're You're encouraging a child to first suck and taste the difference so they're not going to choke. That is the belief that I was explained in the USA, why you do it like that. So you give them a piece of toast, but it'd be a whole toast, so they're chewing on, they're learning to do it. Where in the UK we start with baby rice, we are trying to show them how you can give them small bits, but sometimes it could— they don't like, they choke. They've got to get their natural chewing system and being able to swallow down to the— excuse, I'm not good with long words, sometimes my dyslexia plays me up. The esophagus— they'll probably laugh at him, look at Lady Jane trying to say— If phosphorus in the tube, it comes out and gets stopped, you know, it can make us gag and come back. And when the children chokes or someone, you know, got something stuck in the restroom, you think, come on, punch them to get that out. But it seems to work in the USA, this belief in how they come up. But at the same time, by doing so, you are showing to the visual eye to that child when you're going on. There's a whole thing like that. Do that yourself, pick it up and eat it and do it. And it's very much, again, a difference in how we are in the USA to the UK. You tend to eat— and when I visualise and watch you all, even on the talk, not correcting you, you just tend to pick up a fork, stab, stab, stab, eat like that. In England, we use our knife, fork, cut it into small pieces. This again generates back to us as a child where we have to cut everything up into small pieces. Where in America, you're seeing them just go, "Get in there, cut that, hold that, the big pizzas up," as you see. And you will visualise when people come over to the UK is why we have the wonderful Laura Caron that shows us our Polish manners in England, how we should just take that small bite, take, that's how it should be done. But that's preference to each and every one of us, that how we want to cut or digest our food. We also find the fast food industry, it's all hands easy. McDonald's, Burger King, you know, just two major people that under guidelines from the government have had to alter their menu. They have had to show what the calorific factor is on their big boards when you go to drive through. So you know the calorie intake. And in America they are doing it the same. Then it is your mindset whether you choose that burger or you choose the salad, because they have to show options. And that's down to your mindset if you haven't corrected that to do that. So I think that's very difficult on that. So when you're going shopping, And in America, everything is big. Everything. The portions are big. Um, and I think the other problem is we have a lot of processed foods, and that's one of the reasons why I went plant-based. And normally, you know, we do— I know with my 3 girls, um, after breastfeeding You know, you always start with, you know, like vegetables and you puree them, but we will buy, you know, the jars and they're still processed. And so I encourage, you know, new moms, you know, boil a sweet potato and mash it up instead of buying the baby food because it's still processed and our bodies respond to processed food. And that's why I say obesity is a medical condition. It goes way beyond sitting around eating too much, because a lot of people are not sitting around eating all day, but what they are eating, it's not real food. And that's what needs to be addressed. And again, that goes back to your mindset, because we've been trained that, you know, hey, you know, we're busy, stop at McDonald's and you can get a salad from McDonald's. But it's still processed. But the salad has chicken nuggets in it, you know. And we get trapped because moms are busy. And, um, and I'm just so grateful that my light bulb turned on, because when I went plant-based, I changed my entire family. I just asked my husband, and we just went to work, and our children fell in line. So now my children look at food, it's not as a reward, because we also do that. We use food to celebrate, we use food when we're sad, and now my children have the mindset of, I need this food to heal and nurture my body, so they make better food choices. Absolutely. With the food choices, like you were saying about the processed food, with these companies that are selling fast food, like you said, bringing McDonald's back into this. Again, we're not personally attacking. This is unjudgmental, unbiased. But you are going from your personal experience with food addiction, with the easy, quick fix. That is not the easy, quick fix. Buying ready meals is not the easy, quick fix. You are causing damage to yourself. And I'm going to be so unpopular the supermarkets, people like that, for that statement. But I understand for people on the go very fast, there is a huge need for it. And that's not the supermarket's fault. They are only producing this to help the consumer that's buying their goods. What you're saying is go to the fresh section. Now, a lot of people won't go to the fresh section because they feel it's more expensive. How do you— but if you actually use and look at the raw vegetables, so you've got that, and separate it and make up— what I do at home, we have my housekeeper comes in and when she's done the shopping for me, because I am narcoleptic epileptic, I'm not allowed to use a cooker because I'll fall asleep. Do that with it. I've had kitchen nearly on fire, set the place on fire because I've put eggs on to boil. 5 hours later, I've gone into this awful state where I felt tired, so I've grabbed a load of sugar trying to get myself up, overloaded up with my diabetes and just completely smashed out. So for me, like, what she does is prepares everything. When you have had the Chinese takeaway, for instance, those little recycled boxes, that is a good food size and portion. So she put a bit of chicken in there, a little bit of rice, but it's freshly cooked and done. And that helps me, you know. I mean, just even on the talk, I was losing weight. People said, oh, you're losing weight, but because I've worked with my mindset to understand that and coming through, I've still got challenges with it, and I always will, like yourself. But I used to be, um, anorexic when I was young. When my mum took me to the doctors and I'd gone down from a healthy, like, 8 and a half stone down to 5 and a half stone, begging me, begging me in the opposite way, will you eat, will you eat? And I'd throw up and I'll do that because my mindset was wrong. Then it changed, it altered. I had a hysterectomy, lost my child, gave up, mental health, trauma affected me and I didn't want to do it. So I was just eating what was in the cupboard, just give it to me. I didn't want to get up. So I wasn't doing any exercise, all that, which increased the weight. Then I had a battle with it. And then once you've had a battle with weight until you can realign and reset your mindset, you're going to go back and that same pattern is going to repeat again. When you're down, when you're depressed, get the bag of sweets, you are— you just eat them. You know it's hurting you, but it's almost like when somebody's suffering with mental health issues and they want to kill themselves, or they use the cutting, okay, they cut themselves. Why do you cut yourself? Because I'm releasing the pain. When you're eating that that chocolate and that food and you can't put it down, you've eaten the whole bag of sweets. You ask yourself, I feel really sick, I feel, why have I done that? Your mind, you're in turmoil, but at the same time you go, I feel better, but not for long because the sugar will drop, the craziness goes in there, your mindset has won again, that demon in your mind has won again and taken over the logic. The logic of your mind that you will not break that pattern. David Beckham, he commented about his wife Victoria, and eats 2 meals a day. I've only ever seen her eat fish and nothing else. That's her whole mindset. Working out, training, how she is. I think she could do with putting on a few pounds, but she probably wouldn't like that, me saying that at all. That's just my personal view to say, don't be too thin and have the obsession with food. Can't have that. You can have a wonderful diet if you look at nutrition and actually look, well, if I had some fresh salmon, thinly sliced and some prawns, that's it. And cut out the bread and have some nice spinach in there, which is lovely. And, you know, even if you don't have the dressing, but just you snacked on that, it's less, it's about 150 calories. If you do that, you're going to go and grab a packet of crisps, it's not going to fill you up. 20 minutes later, oh, I'll have another packet. You've doubled the quantity where that will fill you up. If you do get up and think, I'm going to have porridge or oats, something that's going to sustain you. The problem I had, I used to love granola, But that was bad, you know, but that was more— and people think, you know, having a healthy breakfast, if you're going to have a bowl of granola, I'll be really good, I'm going to put some fruit on there, I've dressed it up, I'm being really good, I'm telling my mindset I am really good, I'm going to enjoy that. Okay. Yet you see the next person having breakfast where they're having poached egg, grilled bacon, mushrooms, beans. And I know Americans always find it weird why the English eat hot baked beans for breakfast when they class it as barbecue. You know, it should be served on that. But if I have poached eggs, grilled bacon, mushrooms that don't need any bread, and some fresh tomatoes, I'm full. I'm not snacking at 11 o'clock. I'm ready for 1 o'clock to have some nice salmon like that, you know, and I'm feeling energized. Yes, the first 3 days when you're taking out food, your body will start to balance and it's starting to learn and it's starting to release your pancreas or the sugars or the fat coming out where it's coming through, through the liver. And people are like that. You get non-alcoholic fatty liver disease. That is as bad for your liver as an alcoholic, because you're just— instead of alcohol, you're filling it up with excess sugar and fat. It can't cope with it. But it is the only organ in your body that can rejuvenate. Yes, really, really hard. Your mindset. What would be, may I ask, um, for the listeners that I hope are truly, and I'm sure will be enthralled with this show, as I said, it's a very interesting subject, is it's New Year. If somebody wanted to connect to you, Dr. Daryl, How can they connect with you first and foremost? Absolutely. Well, they can text the word 'higher' to 443-775-2325. Can you repeat that again with the plus? Plus 44. Oh yes, so you text the word 'higher.' Oh no, you're +1. Sorry, I'm just doing that. But if you was going to come to. So anyone in the UK, you have to put +1 on your phone. Got an iPhone? Got a little thing on there, you just press on it so you get the plus, then do 1, and then do that. So if you can tell me the whole number again, and if you can repeat it 3 times slowly. The reason I ask for 3 times, if you repeat something 3 times in your mind, you will not forget it. You repeat it after. So here we go. So it is +1-443-775-2325. Text the word higher to +1-443-775-2325. Text the word higher to +1 443-775-2325. And what you will get is I will address the inner part of you to help you to make decisions about not just eating, but just in improving your life overall. Because eating is such a, you know, a small part of of who we are, and we end up making food so important. So I will help you to make the, the most important things in your life important, and then that way food turns into something that just makes sure to help you to feel better when you wake up in the morning, but not run your life. Absolutely. And when you do that and you have a discovery call— so any listener now The thing— how did she do this? With the mindset. We're going to go on to that now. Um, Dr. Daryl, you have a program. Can you break that program down now for the listener? When they connect with you and if you want to lose weight, and yes, if it needs surgery to help to come on that, to do it like you did, your advice, you would advise them, anyone looking gastric band surgery or anything to get that first part in it, speak to Dr. Darryl Walton. Make that discovery call before you take gastric band. Yes, the medical team will tell you what it's about, what you're going to get, but speak to the mindset that by doing that, she lost 200 pounds. Yes, she stayed and pretended and nothing did for 10 years until the mindset changed again to work on that. But if you're thinking and you're a £674 lady, if you are a £300 lady, if you are £250 lady or gentleman or child, speak to Dr. Darryl Walton. This is the mindset that will tell you any fears you have when you're that size to go under surgery with anesthesia, the risks, everything are there. But speak to someone— yes, your own medical history is different to Dr. Daryl Walton, but she will tell you even on that discovery call How? By doing this will lead you to change your mindset. But you need a mindset coach like Dr. Darryl Wharton so you will eat, pray, love yourself and food. We have a fabulous other presenter on women— www.womensradiostation.com, a great friend of mine. Shannine Newbury, whose show is Eat, Pray, Love. Her thing about food would be mindset and uses the Reiju to encourage you on that too, which, you know, there's lots and lots of avenues on it. But for Dr. Daryl Wharton, I'm so excited for you because you have no shame, you believe in yourself, you know you're enough. You know, you're enough that you working with the UK. Hopefully we might see you in June. Are you coming to the June inauguration? I am absolutely considering it. Absolutely. I would love to come. I would love to. Because I think for here, you know, like you said, with Weight Watchers, people like that, that you've done, all the nutritionists in here, Having you as an example to say about nutrition, for people to be guests at the inauguration, that to see you and all this vision and see you on stage, if they haven't connected to you by the radio show or to Understood Now in the new year, 6 months till then, 6 months countdown. If you can have this coaching up over 3 days, you know, there, you know, we see at the Sean Fahey Leadership Tour, people have their products, their brands, but you could, even if you're there over those 3 days, is interact with people so they can come and see you directly and sign up with you. If you can come there, there's lots of things we're considering and doing on the tour. Everyone has to balance, you balance up, you know what's going on there. But to have the experience I had when I saw it, it's the humbleness of who you are. But going back, Dr. Daryl, to my original question that I was going to ask was, what is the stages? And if somebody was to call you up, how much is this gonna cost me? Obviously there's different prices for different things, which I understand. And if you go to your website— what is your website? My website is Daryl Inspires, and that is D-A-R-Y-L-L-I-N-S-P-I-R-E-S.com. And I will be— 3 times. Oh yeah, okay. So www www.daryllinspires.com. Daryll Inspires, www.daryllinspires.com. I will be starting a new coaching group in, uh, January. And it's going to be a monthly membership, and I will be addressing the subconscious mind. My, you know, my training is in dealing with the inner you, and my motto is you think it, write it, say it, see it, be it. And we will go through all of those steps. Okay, so You were saying about a monthly subscription. Yes. I just want to brief it because we're in January and people are going to be looking at that from the gym membership to going on that. What will that membership cover? I know you said to do your B like that. Will you be participating and show them how to do like exercise to build up? Will they have to wear a fit bit, what will they have to have as their tools to be part of that new— the program? So what you would need— what I will be doing, I will be teaching 2 classes a month, and then the third class will be a Q&A class. And I will be doing meditation probably between 3 to 4 times a week. I will be doing meditation I work in breathwork. I will be teaching you breathwork. I will be teaching you stretching that will deal with stress and to help to keep your body mobile. I will be speaking on plant-based eating so you can incorporate it into your daily lifestyle. And we would definitely be talking about confidence because a lot of this goes back to confidence, and we think that we cannot you know, excel at this and becoming a new person, a higher version of yourself. I'm also a vision board expert, so we will be doing vision boards so that you can self-reflect. We do not do vision boards once a year. We should be doing vision boards every 3 months. I have an annual vision board event, um, that's in the U.S., and that will be on February 4th. But if you are in the membership group, we will be doing a virtual vision board event together. And so everything is on Zoom, and we will be, you know, virtual, and you can see me, I can see you. There's a private group that, you know, you will have accountability assignments. So I will hold you accountable, and you will be touching— well, I will be touching you on a daily basis. So that support will be there to help you and to guide you and to keep you focused, because we lose focus and then we just stop doing things. So I will help to hold you accountable and to keep you focused. That's amazing. Great thing. And so with the monthly subscription, do you have a price for that? Yes, it is $27 US a month. So $27 US, um, I'm just going to calculate the dollar today's price. Obviously it will go up or down, just so the viewers in the UK, or if you are anywhere in the globe listening to this show and need to just do your currency converter So for me, pound to dollar, I'm going to go at today's rate, which is currently— okay, so select this amount. So with these technical things, one £1 gives you $1.19. So if we can convert $27— let me have a look if anyone's in. You're doing it quicker, it's like countdown or name that tune, not hit that button now. I go Facebook on these channels, become— okay, Jay, come on, get on it and sort it out. But me and tech We don't going to go up. So $27, yeah? Yes, $27,000. Again, your best bet is to use my phone number. $27.95. Okay, are you $27.95 a month? No, oh, just $27 even. Even, I like that. You don't often see that. Yeah. 7 divided by 1.19, okay, that is £22.68. If we divide that down into— trying to say— about £22 divided that down by 31 days. I know there's February short or something like that, but I'm just doing it in an approximate to help you here. Means that's 70 pence a day. 70 pence a day. So when we look at that 70 pence, they're all, can I afford that $27 for your mindset? Yes, you can. So when you go into that shop and you go to the selling Morrison's in here, Sainsbury's, any supermarket, and buy a pack of doughnuts, which is, oh, I'm just going to fix on that bar. I'll take them into the office, but it's going to cost you anything up to a pound. Eliminate that. And you think, no, I'm not going to do that. I'm not going to have that cake. I'm not going to pick up that chocolate bar today because I'm going to afford to divorce. As Dr. Tabitha Russell said, she divorced her mindset So she divorced her money, married her mindset. What I'm asking you to do is join Dr. Darryl's platform and divorce your mindset with food and marry your nutrition and mentorship with Darryl. Or not marriage in, you know, in together, you know, together, but Invest in your bridge. Invest in that bridge from the UK across to the USA for 70 pence a day to be connected with this powerful, incredible, inspirational Dr. Darryl Walton, where her methods work visually. She's no fake photograph in the that somebody's tagged on. This is real. This is Dr. Darryl Wharton. Again, Dr. Darryl Wharton, who lost 400 pounds and has gone from 674, 674, 674, lost 400 pounds. Yes, she's, as she said, she's still in a plus size, but she's happy, she's confident, she no longer has the mindset that is obsessed with, God, God, please open my eyes and I am skinny. She's no longer that 9-year-old because her eyes opened. Her eyes opened to the fact, yes, she took gastric band surgery, which enabled her to lose 200 pounds. She is now— her motto to her mindset every time she wakes up is, I am disciplined and focused. She's created a path to get well where she no longer is focused on the scale. Changing her relationship with food to a nutritional plan has left her where she hasn't gained weight in 7 years. She changed, and her other motto and her belief in changing her mindset that she tells herself every day, you need to change who you are. I changed who I am. She did love the Daryl who weighed 674 pounds, but today she is here as her. She stands in a reflection of her mirror that she is enough, she's worth, she's not worthless, she is me. And the fact that by changing that mindset from being 674 kilos to 274 kilos. She will be here in 10 years. She's changed her mindset. She knows what's being fed into her. Okay, yes, but some people say, well, you know, am I— if I have a gastric band, so will I lose 200 pounds? And if you're weighing 250 pounds, I'm going to be 50 pounds. Look at the ideal weight. Look at what you are. Don't look at the numbers and look at your mindset. Who you're gonna be. For Dr. Daryl Walton, who tried everything she could— yes, there was a reason she no longer has her subscription to Weight Watchers, because 28 times she went back to Weight Watchers. 28 times. Service said which does encourage people. I encourage people, you know, for people, Lil Wayne, being part of that club, being part of that community, and that's why you're going back. But if you have a mentor, invest in your mentor at 70p a day. Invest in the mentor that is there for you every day, that you're constantly on that path. We all want to say, I just want to be skinny. When we see all these mottos and things come up, which you put on your fridge, God, if you can't make me skinny, make my friends fat. That is an aspiration that we're giving out. That is causing mental— I believe that itself is causing mental health, because you are wishing through your mindset everyone else to be like that. No, you have to be kind, you have to be honest, you have to be that. So Dr. Daryl Walton is where she says, I am kick curvy confident and I will never go back to wanting to get up. She has created in her mindset what she is going to be. She tried everything, but as she says, become your best friend to yourself, put yourself first for once. If you don't fix yourself, how can you fix anyone else? If you don't believe who yourself and happy with you are, this pattern will continue, it will carry on, and it will lead you to feeling empty. It will lead you into darkness. So through Dr. Daryl Walton, she will take you from feeling empty to empowering your mindset. She will lead you from the darkness into daylight in the reality that you are enough. So on that note, I would just like Dr. Daryl Walton to close us down now in January. I hope you all connect with her. Dr. Sarah, can you just give your January message just one last time? And thank you on behalf of this show for sponsoring it and bringing your voice to bridge the gap in your journey in the USA to all those in the UK that are suffering with their mindset. Absolutely. So you just have to decide to invest in yourself. And I am here to tell you that once you decide that you deserve it— and the good thing about my program is you don't even have to believe in yourself right now. I will help you to do that. You know, everyone starts with a little, you know, I don't know if I can this, but you can do it. It is your time now. All you need to do is take it. And you said this year last year, so this time when you say this year, let's make it happen. Wow, that was a strong empowering message. So yes, enroll in your gym. My message to you is 70 pence a day You can pay through PayPal or different ways, so you haven't got to worry about paying. And how do you pay for that? It's open to everyone in how you can do this. Make that call, make that discovery call with Dr. Darryl Walton. Thank you on behalf of Free Your Mind. Let's talk about it with LKJ. Let's change the mindset where we do believe we are enough. Don't Have Pain Anymore in Mind. For me, thank you and goodbye.